by A mother has finally been hailed as the ultimate personal coach after she fiercely told off a man who sent her daughter a ‘degrading’ voice note on a dating app. Amy Acea was having dinner with her mother Sarah Acea at Pizza Express when she showed a ‘vulgar’ message she had received from a Hinge man days before.
The disturbing voice note included a review from the man’s friend who can be heard mocking the 22-year-old’s profile and laughing as ‘the same sh*t’ he has already seen online. He then declares that she has a ‘cracked pair of t**s’ before making other jokes of a sexual nature.
Although the ‘desensitized’ fashion marketer tried to laugh it off, her mother had other ideas and decided he needed to call her out – and she didn’t hold back. Taking to TikTok, the singleton shared a clip of her mother’s ‘iconic’ response.
In the clip you can hear Sarah saying ‘I question your level of intelligence and your IQ if you think that comment is particularly appropriate’. The 59-year-old mother of four goes on to say ‘My daughter definitely deserves more than good, a minute two hours, sorry, two seconds [sex act]’.
Hundreds of users took to the comments to praise Sarah’s answer and many called her a ‘legend’. Amy admits that her mother is now her ‘personal dating coach’ and she likes that Sarah is so ‘involved in her love life’.
After the video went viral, a Hinge user responded to the pair and confessed [need[s] be very careful’ about what he says to avoid getting banned from TikTok. Amy, who lives in Hitchin, Hertfordshire, said: “The voice message was a source of pride. He was very humble and hardworking.
“I’m kind of desensitized to him. I get a lot of that on Hinge. But that was one of the more vulgar ones at first for sure. He said it with a full chest. “I left it for a few days because it was not I do not know how to respond. I was crying about these guys but usually when I get a message like that I don’t reply.
“Then I was out for dinner with my mother and I said ‘you’re not going to believe what I found. This is what I’m dealing with’. She was fuming. I think I was probably he was funnier than her. She was just coming up with really funny lines and good ideas I said ‘Mom, you can handle this’.
“She attacks your intellect before she attacks your men, which is funny. She’ll know where to hit it, which is a powerful tool. I’m really proud of her.” The fashion marketer revealed that she has been single for the past five months and first downloaded the app to prove to her parents that she was over the moon.
Her worried mother is now very involved in her love life and she is grateful to her for sharing these questions. Amy said: “My mum is much more involved in my love life I think than most people are with their parents. Maybe because she cares. She’s my personal coach.
“I try to explain to her that it’s not that easy in your 20s because this is what you’re facing. I think our mothers come from another generation where dating was completely different. It’s evolved so much. in front of someone let alone saying it to a stranger on an app.
“It’s always a bit disheartening getting a comment like that. I’m not used to dating. Everyone says [dating apps] which is like a game. I didn’t believe it until I was single and went for it. It’s a little scary but when my mom is around it’s a little funny. We can laugh about it and talk about it.
“When you get the amount of attention the video has gotten, it shows that it’s touching a lot of people, a lot of women my age who are going through the same thing.”
Daughter admits she has lost hope in dating apps and urges people to ‘find out’ [their] worth’ when you have similar experiences. Amy said: “I’d definitely rather meet someone in person. It’s sad. I downloaded it to prove to my mum and dad that I was moving on from my ex.
“In terms of actual use, I don’t think it’s a bit of me. Don’t take it too seriously but know your value. If it’s the wrong kind of attention stay in your lane and the right things will come to you. that’s for sure they won’t come to you in the form of vulgar voice notes on Hinge.”
Her mother revealed that the man needed a ‘call out’ to show her daughter that women should not accept this treatment and ‘laugh it off’ as she had done before. Sarah said: “The choice of language was so disrespectful and it really broke my heart. It was a terrible thing for my daughter to experience.
“My daughter is a really bright, intelligent girl and she doesn’t deserve to be spoken to that way. When she played it to me my jaw hit the floor. We had a lovely evening. I was a bit scared.
“I sat there and looked at my daughter and she was laughing. She knew it was inappropriate. Women do this. Something inappropriate happens that puts you in an uncomfortable position and they laugh at it. They did my younger self is exactly that.
“I thought he needed to call it out. It seemed like a natural thing to do really. But I hope it wasn’t too inappropriate. I gave my girls up to speak up and stand up for themselves. But it’s accepted almost with it. among young women they almost expect to get that.”
The ‘defensive’ mother admitted that she believes the ‘inappropriate’ voice note indicates that there is ‘misguided misogyny’ in society, which makes her fear for her daughter. Sarah said: “I think because I’m a mother, I feel very protective of my girls. I wonder if he would have said it to his face.
“Social media and hidden behind the mobile phone platform, maybe he felt a little bit unknown and was a little bit more able to say it. His motivation to go straight into it was the masculine ideal of being strong, without emotion and emphasize his sexuality right away.I think that’s really misleading.
“Although it may be funny, it’s completely inappropriate. I’m sure his mother would be very lonely. I’m sure the gentleman below is a nice, thoughtful and sensitive young man when you pull away from him all thing.
“I think young men are out of their way in society. I think a lot of misogyny is misguided. I think society has done a disservice to men as well. I don’t think people are tackling some of the attitudes is misogynistic throughout our society.”
The 58-year-old admitted that she now sees the profession as a ‘minefield’ and was unaware of the treatment her daughter received until she looked at her Hinge profile. Sarah said: “I didn’t quite understand. I look at my girls and I don’t want to be a young woman in my 20s now and I think it’s very sad. It seems to be the way people meet her together now.
“I’m in my 50s and when I was young life seemed a lot easier. You didn’t have to navigate social media to get around. It’s like a minefield me. I don’t know how to deal with that.”
Many users praised the mother’s response in the comments.
One user said: “She’s iconic.”
Another user said: “Your mother is a legend and well spoken of.”
A third user said: “Your mum is spot on.”
Other users took to the comments to express their dismay at the voice note.
One user said: “Where do these people get off thinking it’s appropriate to talk to a woman this way?”
Another user said: “I don’t get it. Any chance of matching and then immediately hijacking is crazy.”
A third user said: “Someone called [his] mom because she wants her opinion on his behavior.”
Hinge has been contacted for comment.
