by A mother has said she only found out her daughter was allowed to change gender at school when teachers “sexed” her at a parents’ evening.
The 13-year-old was allowed to change her name and pronouns at school despite her mother, Sarah, warning that she felt it was a one-way street between sex-change hormones and surgery.
Sarah, whose name has been changed to protect her identity, believes schools are “collecting diversity brown points” and pretending that being trans is “all glitter and unicorns” without warning children about the long-term physical and mental
Her daughter’s West Country school began referring to the teenager by male pronouns without Sarah’s permission after she decided at 13 she was born in the wrong body.
“The school started declaring it behind my back and I found out that the teachers were using male pronouns during parents’ evenings, when she was being referred to as he,” said Sarah.
“I raised concerns about social transition and explained that it is a pathway to medical transition. I explained the dangers and lifelong consequences of that – the fact that if my child goes down the medical route, she will never come back the same.
“They say it’s about being kind, but I think it’s cruel. They only have to deal with her until she turns 16 and I’ll have to pick up the pieces when they’ve long forgotten about her.
“It’s very short-sighted. Schools are just trying to collect brownie points for diversity and inclusion and are not thinking about the long term effects.
“They know there are girls in their school wearing breast stickers. I told them if you found out that a child attending your school was tying their feet, would you do anything?
“If my child was of African heritage and you found out that their breasts were attached, would you do anything? Because breast ironing is illegal as a form of female genital mutilation.
“Because she’s a middle-class white kid, because she identifies as a boy, it’s somehow okay.”
Sarah has raised concerns with teachers, citing the most comprehensive study of the effects of binders to date, which found that more than 97 percent of adults who use them have health problems as a result.
But the school said “it’s impossible to know they’re wearing it”, she noted, adding: “You can get away with all kinds of protection failures under this umbrella, my child’s safety has been neglected because n -she identifies as a boy. “
Sleep in the boys’ dormitory
On one occasion, Sarah received a phone call asking if her daughter could sleep in the boys’ dormitory on a school trip because she identified as a boy, a request she refused.
“I asked them what kind of protection risk assessment they had done, and there was no answer,” she said. “I asked if they didn’t see that there could be underage sex, non-consensual sex, teenage pregnancy.”
Sarah believes that the children, often those with autism spectrum disorders, “feel special” if they are trans and are allowed to use the toilets and uniforms they choose.
“They get validation from new trans status,” she said. “Even if it doesn’t help them fit in, it helps them feel more important. Before they were just the joke or the nerdy kid but now, they’re the trans kid, which is special.”
She spoke out as The Telegraph’s inquiry raised concerns about the number of schools in the West Indies that are misrepresenting equality laws and promoting controversial cross-border ideology as fact.
One trust running nine Church of England primary schools has approved a Stonewall “school script” on how to talk about LGBTQ+ issues, it has emerged.
Different schools use similar language in their policies and some use the training services of cross-rights campaign groups.
Some say they will support any social transition and give children the chance to “self-identify” while others promise not to make children sit in boys and avoid gender uniforms.
According to Colyton Grammar, which caters for children from 11 to 18, and West Exmoor Federation, which runs three primary levels: “Sex refers to a person’s understanding and experience of their own gender identity, it is their own internal feeling.
“Everyone has a gender identity; for some, it corresponds to the gender assigned at birth, and for others, it does not. Gender identities are expansive and do not need to be confined within a single agreed-upon term.”
Colyton, considered one of the best state schools in the country, pledges to “take every opportunity to promote equality, diversity and inclusion” and says gender identity will be addressed in assemblies, literary programs and programs personal, social, health and economic. education.
The policy, which is due for review next year, says that “school policies and information” should use “gender neutral pronouns” and children should be taught that it is “unacceptable” and “harmful” to mislead classmates. The school did not respond to a request for comment.
Sarah added: “For schools, it’s about celebrating diversity, it’s a big party, it’s glittery and unicorns. There’s no talking about the lifelong pain from osteoporosis, or the fact that one day you might want children and not be able to have them.”
Involve parents in any decision
The government’s long-awaited draft guidance for schools on trans children, published in December, says schools should not accept all requests for students to change their gender by using pronouns or different facilities, and that parents should be involved in any decision that is made. However, it is not legally binding.
Sarah said the Government’s new guidance for schools is “not strong enough” and “it needs to become law because this ideology is now in every area of school life”.
Tanya Carter, a spokeswoman for the Safe Schools Alliance campaign group expressed her concern that there was “a total abdication of duty, of care, not only in individual schools but also by the Government”.
The campaign group is not surprised that so many schools are misrepresenting equality laws while “warning about this”, she said.
“This is a protection and lobbying scandal, and there needs to be a public inquiry into how we got to this point,” Ms Carter told the Telegraph.
“We recommend that any parents whose school is misrepresenting safeguarding rules, or who have the Equality Act, contact the Department for Education, Ofsted and their MP.
“We know that these issues are widespread and yet there is constant denial of how widespread, even denial that it is happening at all. We are facing a huge national scandal and people are pretending that nothing is going on.
“A lot of children are learning misinformation online and then they go into classes where you’d expect schools to challenge misinformation but in fact they’re reinforcing that misinformation.
“In many cases we come across parents who think that the original introduction to their children’s belief that they were born in the wrong body was in the classroom.
“We expect this to be a big issue in the upcoming election as parents will be asking candidates what their party is going to do to protect children.”
