Dad texted his partner ‘please save me’ but it was too late

A father described as the “life and soul of the party” has died after sending a heartbreaking text to his partner.

Kevin Sholicar from Ormskirk tragically took his own life on Saturday, April 27, leaving behind his parents, two younger brothers, two half sisters, his partner of 18 years and their two daughters, aged 10 and 14 age. Kevin, who took his. two daughters who were on holiday in the weeks before his death, that they had struggled with mental health for much of his adult life, according to his father.

On April 27, Kev’s partner received a heartwarming text from her children’s dad which read ‘Come save me.’ Kevin’s father, John Sholicar, said Kev’s partner called the emergency services and performed CPR shortly after arriving at the house where he was staying.

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Seán, aged 57, said: “WHe thought it was a cry for help gone wrong, because he texted his partner saying ‘come and save me’, and left the door open for her.”

His father has paid emotional tribute to his much-loved son, he said: “I’m watching videos of him and I’m laughing and crying because there are videos of him laughing and joking. He laughed and joked with everyone, he loved everyone.

“He was always the life and soul of the party, he was a great friend, I have videos of him joking around in the [work] van with his best friend, Andy. He always looked after his mana, he would do anything for anyone and he loved his girls [his two daughters]. He was so well liked, well liked and respected, always smiling and laughing.

“It was just earlier [today] that I came back from walking our dogs – he has an inherited German Shepard – and my wife was in tears because Jamie Webster was on the radio, he loved his songs. He would always sing it and you can picture him singing it. And Mardy Bum with the Arctic Monkeys – he loved music.

“He loved Phil Collins too, I remember getting a text from him once saying ‘I love him because of you. I’m only half the man I am because of you, you’re my hero father.’ He was a complete character and loved by everyone. , he was always trying to make people laugh.”

John hopes his son’s story can raise awareness of men’s mental health, he is urging people to speak up if they are struggling even if they think they are getting better. He said: “What happened was when Kev found his life crying for help. His partner was there within fifteen minutes of the text being sent. It was very traumatic.

“I want to create awareness of men’s mental health, if this could happen to a 35-year-old young man. Kev was on his way up, he was working, so he came from nowhere in he actually took his own life.

“He was on holiday with the kids recently – he took the girls on holiday where they swam with dolphins, they rode go-karts, that was only a few weeks ago. He’s been through a bad patch but he was look at it. we were on the way up. It was like something changed in his brain.

“I want to encourage people to speak up if they’re struggling. You might have some problems and you might think you’re fine, then something switches in your brain. One switch was in his head for a split moment when he wasn’t thinking about all the people he was going to hurt and that he loved.

“Mental health can take over when you think you’re at your worst. It doesn’t take much for it to come back and get you. Even if you think you’re back on track, you should continue to get support. I’m wearing a band right now that says ‘it’s okay to talk.'”

John says his son’s legacy was able to live on because he was an organ donor – his organs have helped many others. He said: “Kev was an organ donor, he helped so many people. We want to raise awareness for people to be an organ donor – just one eye can go a long way to helping four – organs can go a long way to give better to so many people.And now it has helped so many people.

“It gives us a lot of comfort to know that he helped so many people. It’s a legacy, that’s his legacy. And, this is the type of person he was, he would help everyone. He was a son It’s great. And now it’s living in other people.

“It’s such a thoughtful process for everyone involved, even the family. You get messages from someone that the life you saved is beautiful.”

Kevin’s best friend Andy Noone has set up a GoFundMe page on behalf of the family, all money raised will go towards helping his two daughters in the future and a donation will be made to men’s mental health charities. You can donate to the fundraiser here.

Mental health support

Helplines and support groups

The following are helplines and support networks that people can talk to, most of which are listed on the NHS Choices website

• The Samaritans (116 123) operate a 24 hour service which is available every day of the year. If you prefer to write down how you are feeling, or if you are concerned about being heard on the phone, you can email the Samaritans at jo@samaritans.org.

• The CALM Campaign Against Living Courageously (0800 58 58 58) is a leading movement against suicide. It runs a UK helpline and web chat from 5pm to midnight 365 days a year for anyone who has hit a wall for any reason, wants to talk or get information and support.

• PANDAS (0808 1961 776) runs a free helpline and provides a support service for people who may be suffering from perinatal mental illness, including antenatal (prenatal) and postnatal depression plus support for their family or network.

• Childline (0800 1111) runs a helpline for children and young people in the UK. Calls are free and the number will not appear on your telephone bill.

• PAPYRUS (0800 068 41 41) is an organization that supports teenagers and young adults who are feeling suicidal.

• Mind (0300 123 3393) is a charity that provides advice and support to empower anyone with a mental health problem. They campaign to improve services, raise awareness and promote understanding.

• Students Against Depression is a website for students who are depressed, have low mood or have suicidal thoughts.

• Bullying UK is a website for both children and adults affected by bullying.

• Amparo provides emotional and practical support for anyone affected by suicide. This includes dealing with police and coroners; assist with media inquiries; preparing for and attending an inquest and helping to access other appropriate local support services. Call 0330 088 9255 or visit www.amparo.org.uk for more details.

• Hub of Hope is the UK’s most comprehensive national mental health support database. Download the free app, visit hubofhope.co.uk or email SHOUT to 85258 to find relevant services near you.

• Young People’s Advisory Service – Providing mental health and emotional wellbeing services for children, young people and families in Liverpool. tel: 0151 707 1025 email: support@ypas.org.uk

• Paul’s Place – providing free counseling and group sessions to anyone living in Merseyside who has lost a family member or friend to suicide. Tel: 0151 226 0696 or email: paulsplace@beaconcounsellingtrust.co.uk

• The Martin Gallier Project – offering face-to-face support to individuals who are considering suicide and their families. Opening hours 9.30-16.30, 7 days a week. Tel: 0151 644 0294 email: triage@gallierhouse.co.uk

• Aáit Séamais – supports men aged over 18 who are experiencing a suicidal crisis by providing rapid access to therapy and support. Call 0151 303 5757 Monday to Friday between 9.30am and 5.30pm or visit https://www.jamesplace.org.uk/

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